Let It Go, Let It Go …cannot hold it back anymore
Let It Go, Let it Go…turn away and slam the door.
Did the visual of Elsa twirling on the mountain come into your mind?
As we begin this journey called 2017, what might you need to let go of that is holding you back?
Is it a relationship that is not serving you?
A responsibility you have accepted but realize it, too, is not serving your higher purpose?
Are you just going through the motions and missing out on the opportunity to live fully – alive?
Les Brown says, “Don’t live dead.”
I must admit
I had to replay that statement when I heard it. There are a lot of people who do just that. Just go through the motions of life, pleasing others, doing what they do to earn money, all the while hating their job. I have been stuck in that whirlpool. This is one of the reasons I have a team that supports me and I support them as they seek their hearts desires. I must admit, my coach is my biggest fan! And my biggest reality check!
What would it look like if you decided you were no longer going to hold back your greatest desires this year?
What benefit will you have it you turn away from a habit, slam the door, and focus only on habits that move you forward? Would it turn your year upside down? In a good way!
What could possibly be holding you back? Why not make 2017 the year to investigate the motives, habits, and self-doubt that perhaps even paralyzes you from seeking your true purpose. Your greatness!
Chances are the biggest factor holding you back is that deep seeded word: FEAR! I know fear. I have made several decisions to face my fears head on. Look myself in the mirror and talk myself into moving past what I discovered was holding me back.
One of the biggest fears I faced was my son and the Army. He has now been a member of our Armed Forces for 8 years. (Really? How did 8 years fly by like that?) To say I am proud of him is an understatement. I admire his bravery. He physically challenges his body to go beyond what I thought could be possible. I watch him love his family. And I have watched him leave his family to head to a conflict in another part of our world.
As his mom, fear became a day to day experience. It paralyzed me. Fear of him going off to war. Fear of him being caught in the crossfire, fear of him not coming home, and finally, fear of him coming home a different son than the one that left months before.
Letting it go
Talk about needing to let it go…. No matter how hard I tried, I could not say “my son” and “war” in the same breath without losing it. Time to turn away and slam the door on that fear!
Finally, one night when I got home from work, I walked into my house, threw everything on the floor and began having it out with God. I told him all kinds of stuff: this is my only son, he is such a great person, he is my gift from YOU! Remember God!
Bundle that with being in a small boutique, a woman coming in and, in a very loud voice, sharing with the sales person that her son wanted to go into the military and her and the dad were not having any part of it. As a matter of fact, they told him they would disown him! Since she was loud, I felt like I was privy to the conversation. I looked at her and said, “My son is in the Army and heading to Afghanistan next week.”
“You don’t understand,” she said, “my son is smart, he has a future.”
I thought, “you seriously didn’t just say that.” Let it go, let it go, let it go …
Then I thought about it. My heart sagged for this young man I didn’t even know. A future? I wonder how that looks like for him today. Being threatened by parents who do not support him. Please know, I believe the parents were doing out of love for their son. Thank God (literally) this was not our model of parenting. I know everything happens for a reason. I had to seek the positive out of the conversation.
Not only was I proud of my son, I was proud to be his mom (not just in that moment). I am proud that I support my kids’ choice of careers. Mostly, I am very proud that I couldn’t hold back anymore.
I replied to the mom, “Well, my son is very intelligent, he is a college graduate, and he believes in keeping not only his family from harm but you as well.” Enough said. It was certainly time to turn away from that toxic conversation and slam the door (with love, of course!).
Letting go of the fear and not worrying about circumstances and choices that I have no control over is the most freeing experiences I have ever encountered. This includes both my paralyzing fear and words spoken by others which I receive as hurtful. I realized it gets me off track and the matters that are important to me go by the wayside because I become consumed about what I cannot control. The (negative) energy that takes! Quite simply, it is exhausting.
I plan to rock 2017!
In order for this to happen, I have, to be honest about people, places, and things, as they say, that is not serving my high purpose. I cannot hold back anymore – I am not getting any younger! We have one shot at this amazing, beautiful life!
How are you going to rock your 2017? I would love to know!